Neurotic needs as coping strategies

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​COMPLIANCE 

If I help you, you won’t leave

Moving-TOWARD
Self-effacement
Basic anxiety

Restrict one's life to narrow borders

Need for Affection

Need for Approval

I should

Be sweet, self-sacrificing, saintly

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WITHDRAWAL

Moving-AWAY
Resigning solution

Need for perfection and unassailability

Need for self-sufficiency and independence

"I should be independent, aloof, perfect."

AGGRESSION

Moving-AGAINST
Expansive solution
Basic hostility

Need for Power, for control over others.

Social recognition or prestige

Fear of being used, of looking stupid

Exploit others and get the better of them

Need for Personal admiration

Need for Personal achievement

"I should be powerful, recognized, a winner."

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Creates an ideal self out of these "shoulds

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Since ideal self is ultimately impossible

The neurotic swings between

 a feeling of arrogant omnipotence and of being the scum of the earth
​(Horney, 1950, p. 188)

Hating themselves - Despised self 
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​Pretending to be perfect - Ideal self

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Ideal self is created in times of great anxiety and unfulfiled needs – the scared mind say “if I were this way, then I wouldn’t have been hurt or left alone.

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(Ideal self) Compulsion ⇠⇢ Spontaneity (Real self)  

Source: 
https://myweb.rollins.edu/jsiry/NeurosisGrowth.html#contents 
Webspace. "Karen Horney." Webspace, n.d., https://webspace.ship.edu/cgboer/horney.html
Newworldencyclopedia. "Karen Horney - New World Encyclopedia." Newworldencyclopedia, n.d., http://www.newworldencyclopedia.org/entry/Karen_Horney 
Plaza. "04 Major Concepts 3 « Karen Horney & Humanistic Psychoanalysis." Plaza, n.d., http://plaza.ufl.edu/bjparis/ikhs/horney/fadiman/04_major3.html 
​https://www.ivcc.edu/uploadedFiles/_faculty/_mangold/Horney%20and%20Psychoanalytic%20Social%20Theory.pdf
https://sites.google.com/site/ubmichellebadillo/theories-of-personality/karen-horney-psychoanalytic-social-theory 
​http://www.terrapsych.com/karenhorney.html